Guest Post | Seasons

Like seasons in a year, Daniel Levinson, author of ‘The Seasons of a Man’s Life”, points out that men tend to develop along a certain developmental timeline as well. He goes on to say that there are four seasons of a man’s life: spring, summer, fall and winter. Though the seasons are not chronologically based, … Continue reading

The Peacock Effect | Redefining The Middle-Aged Man

We need a broader definition of what being a man is. I remember a female friend of mine many years ago trying to figure me out. She came to the conclusion that I was either a player or gay. I didn’t fit into her predetermined box of manliness. Why? Because I dressed well. Can you … Continue reading

Day In | Day Out

This is by far some the best life advice I’ve ever heard. It’s the commencement address to the 2005 graduating class of Kenyon College by David Foster Wallace. It’s brilliant. I had to share it.


No it doesn’t feel like spring at all right now. But I’ll start the transition to brighter, warmer colors anyway in hopes of its imminent arrival. This year I’m turning to the Ledbury Purple and Navy Royal Starks to brighten up my spring. I love this shirt! But it’s a limited edition shirt, on sale … Continue reading

Dwyane Wade and my Benjamin Daedfyshe eureka moment

Picture it. Cambridge, Ontario. It was the night of my wedding, on an unusually warm fall night. One of my groomsmen after spending the day in an uncomfortable pair of dress shoes decided he is now ready to cut a rug and slips on a pair of sneakers. I wished I had thought of it. It … Continue reading

A year of blogging has taught me one thing. There’s nothing worse than a part-time blogger.

Happy 1-year anniversary Project 40! A year ago I began posting in digital form the internal conversations I have with myself. The things that motivate me. The things I worry about and just things in general. It really was just for me. Then I started to get comments from friends and family. Then from people … Continue reading

Flying Solo | New York, allow me to reintroduce myself

The year was 2005. The San Antonio Spurs were NBA champions. The New England Patriots were kings of the NFL. Hurricane Katrina devastated New Orleans and the world lost the comic genius of Richard Pryor. It short, 2005 was a very bad year. It was personally a very bad year also. I was in an unhappy relationship. … Continue reading

Post #100 | Word

How pumped are you after listening to that?

OMG! How old is Denzel?

Guest Post: 10 Days and counting…

10 days and counting. 10 days until I reach a milestone in my life that I haven’t really thought about until recently. 10 days until I reach the ripe old age of 40. As a young man, I had big plans for my life, the NBA just wasn’t in the cards, Bill Gates never returned … Continue reading