This is how grown men sets goals | Patrick’s Goals Continued

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
Lao-tzu, The Way of Lao-tzu

Well, it’s taken some time, but I have finally completed my Goals post. I turned 40 almost a month ago. I don’t feel any different physically but I have had some time to reflect on what is important to me going forward.
“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack of will.” Vince LombardiFirst of all an update to my first Goal:Since joining the Gym just before my 40th birthday, I’ve gone to the gym almost every day that I could (I travel for a living, so I’m on the road a lot). I drag my self out of bed every morning at 4am and I’m on the treadmill or elliptical by 4:20am. I put in a 1/2 hr to 45 minutes of running every morning before I shower, hit Starbucks and start my day at work. I haven’t really noticed any differences in my appearance yet, but I feel great. I’ve also changed my diet significantly. I watch what I eat very closely and I am trying to make healthy choices.
So, Goal #1 is on track!
Goal #2:
To finally marry the love of my life. She has been with me for 12 years, she has given me 3 wonderful children and she has put up with me through countless trials and tribulations. She doesn’t want a big wedding, she’d be happy to just be official. So Goal #2 is to take my Lady to Vegas with a few of our closest friends and to give her my name.
Goal #3:
To take my family on a REAL vacation. I want my daughter to go to Disneyworld before she’s too old to appreciate it. Before she’s lost that innocence and before she stops believing in the fantasy.
Goal #4:
To buy my family a home that they can truly call their own. We don’t live in a shack or anything, but renting always feels temporary and I want my family to have what I never did as a child, a home that didn’t belong to someone else.
Goal #5:

I have been working for the same company for 15 years. I started at the lowest rung on the ladder and I’ve ascended to a comfortable and respected position. I don’t want to stagnate. Don’t get me wrong, I love my job and I’m proud of how hard I’ve worked to get to where I am, but I don’t want to stay still and find myself still here when I’m 50. I don’t know if there is room for upward movement in my current company, but if not, I will do what it takes to keep moving forward even if it means starting somewhere new. My dream has always been to work for myself. I love to cook, my wife loves to cook and I think we are both pretty good at it. Truth be told, our dream is to own our own restaurant and/or food truck. I’ve heard it said a million times that if possible, you should do what you love and I love to cook. For now, we’ll keep that in the ‘dream’ category as opposed to a goal.

This weekend my wife received her degree from Brock University. Last year, she set a goal to finish her degree. At the time, it seemed like an impossible dream. We were not well-off financially, she was working part-time and I full-time. We have two kids in school and a toddler who is home all the time. We lived in Brantford and the school is in St. Catherines. There were numerous excuses for her to just say it was impossible, but she didn’t. She committed herself to it and our family committed to do whatever it took to help her. Watching her work so hard, staying up late nights studying, going to school a couple of days a week and working a part-time job all the while still looking after me and our 3 children was both heart-breaking and awe-inspiring. When I saw her in her gown on that stage getting her degree I was so proud of her and she proved to me that if you put your mind to it, you can do anything!

“Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands.”  Clint Eastwood

Prem and I had an agreement that we would both post our goals on here for everyone to see. To put ourselves out there to remain accountable for those goals. Now that they are out there, there is no going back. Prem is not only a friend, but he is someone I respect very highly, and my wife reads this blog so if nothing else, two of the most important people in my life will read this and know that I said it. To fail would be to let them down.

So stay tuned for the occasional update on how things are going, and I promise to be more frequent with my cooking posts. I have been honing some new recipes that I’ll share in the weeks to come.

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